Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Steps Toward Normal

A continuation of her prior post, which I shared last month:
It is so important to note that my unhealthy lifestyle was not the cause of my problems, it was just a symptom of a larger issue, not being true to myself and not living an authentic life. I think this is the case with most people who adopt unhealthy eating and workout patterns. A larger issue or stressor is causing them to use exercise and nutrition in a negative manner to control whatever they are feeling powerless over. Like an injury, unless you address the root cause of the problem, you will never find a permanent solution, and will likely experience one setback after another. I eventually recognized this, and made loving my authentic self and living my life openly a huge priority. After all, doing so was a choice. This is when all aspects of my life changed for the better, including my workouts and nutrition.


Friday, September 23, 2016

Stop Trying To Have It All

My version of this is a constant struggle for me, and I suspect it's true for most of us.
What’s changed is not our inability to manage our time or “balance our lives” between work and play. What’s changed is that we have more opportunities for work and play than ever before — more interests, more awareness of every potential experience we’re passing up. In short, we have more opportunity cost.
And we’re made aware of this in a terribly connected way each day. Every person who decides to sacrifice their dating life to advance their career is now bombarded constantly by the rambunctious sex lives of their friends and strangers. Every person who sacrifices their career prospects to dedicate more time and energy to their family is now bombarded with the material successes of the most exceptional people around them at all times. Every person who decides to take a thankless but necessary role in society is now constantly drowned in inane stories of the famous and beautiful.
So how do we respond to this new, overly-connected culture? How do we manage our FOMO?
You CAN and SHOULD read it all: https://markmanson.net/you-cant-have-it-all

Monday, September 19, 2016

People Are Medicine

There is something to this, I feel the truth in my soul:

If social isolation and betrayal (especially by people very close to you) facilitate and even trigger addiction, then healing and building meaningful relationships (complete with the requisite vulnerability) might be a partial “cure” for addiction. 
What a beautiful idea: people are medicine.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Ignore the Guy in the Next Lane

Life lessons:

The truth is that those in the habit of comparing themselves to others will never get to a point where they are content. Even if they look around and see that they have more money, a better job, a bigger house, or more talented kids than everybody in their neighborhood, there will always be somebody who has more. The constant comparison and fighting to be “the top” only leads to a lifetime of disappointment, criticizing others, and bitterness. There is no “top”.
Is there a better way? I think so.
Here are 4 tips for focusing on the best possible YOU...
All here: http://successify.net/2016/09/06/lose-at-life/

Sunday, September 11, 2016

Turning The Dial

This simple advice is spot-the-fuck-ON as far as nutrition goes.
...start where you are, then dial UP certain things and dial DOWN other things. These dials aren’t based on an arbitrary list of “good” or “bad” foods. Instead they are based on objective characteristics of different foods, and what you want to achieve. 


Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Stop It With The Shaming

This girl. She's a fucking genius, and you should read everything she writes. I've probably told you that before.

If you carry shame like I do, you know what a cunning, baffling, and powerful force it can be. Positive affirmations and glittery memes on Facebook urging us to “be authentic” and to “love ourselves” might bolster us for a minute, but they don’t—they can’t—help us overcome shame.


Saturday, September 3, 2016

You Cannot Control Your Way to Freedom


We want to be organized.
We want to be disciplined.
We want to be that person that worked for something, and then got it.
We want to be achievers, the people who don’t just talk about change, but make change.
We want to be the people that take care of ourselves
We want to be rockstars. (figuratively speaking of course, I’m not sure I could personally handle groupies).
And we assume that controlling our food intake is a sign that we are that person.